If only: letting go of regret

Acknowledgments

Introduction

1. Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda Versus Me: Recognizing Regret

2. Oh, the Places We Go! Hiding from the Sins We Commit

3. Doing a Whole Lot of Nothing: Avoiding the Messes of others

4. I Want What I Have and I Want What You Have Too: Stealing Your Own Life

5. Hiding in a Stack of Fig Leaves: When Someone Else's Sin Tries to Write Your Story

6. What's in the Vault? Compartmentalizing as a Way to Silence the Past

7. The Truth, the Whole Truth, and Nothing but the Truth: The Confession Cure

8. Truce like a River? The Peace That Crosses Our Dividing Walls

9. When the Past Becomes the Present: Why Our History Still Tells Tales

10. All Things Work Together For...: The Story of the Sequel to Our "If Onlys"

11. Running with the Pack: When Everyone Is (Just a Little Bit) Responsible, No One Is Responsible

Conclusion: Letting Go

Appendix A: Counseling Q & A

Appendix B: Key Scriptures Featured in Each Chapter

Notes